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“Show us a marriage that is faltering, and we’ll show you a marriage where the fun is gone. And where the fun is gone, there is a good chance they don’t date their mate! Dating is something they did before they got married. It’s not in their marriage vocabulary today.” (Drs David and Jan Stoop).

Just because the normal practice for many is to equate ‘dating’ with going out to a restaurant , show etc does not mean that ‘dating’ has to be put on hold for now. Why not bring out those board games and challenge each other (or the family, if they are at home) to a game, or gaze at the stars together, or dream big, exciting dreams together, or share funny stories…. and have more regular ‘dates’ having fun with your spouse.


SOME MORE IDEAS TO INSPIRE ROMANCE & FUN

  1.  Go on a Youtube laugh tour.
  2. Have an indoor picnic when you are alone and it’s dark outside; soften the lights.
  3. Look into your spouse’s eyes with love, and smile.
  4. Call your spouse during the day and tell them something you love about them(even if they are just in another room in the home).
  5. Turn off the lights and light a candle when you have dinner.
  6. Have a movie night in bed – cuddle and take some bed-friendly food to eat.
  7. Make heart-shaped pancakes and take turns to feed each other.
  8. Sit together, snuggle up, put your arm around your spouse and kiss each of their fingers.
  9. Find and play that special music you both love and reminisce about “remember when”, telling your favorite stories of when you first started dating.
  10. Wash their back when you are both in the shower.
  11. Have coffee together in the morning so that you can have a five-minute non-business talk together.
  12. If you have any children’s toys in the house use any that are appropriate to,build something together.( Lego or dominoes maybe.)
  13. For no special reason, hug and whisper something romantic in their right ear.
  14. Write each other a love letter.
  15. Play games, exercise and laugh together.

From Various sources


EXERCISE

Cheerfulness is the best promoter of health and is as friendly to the mind as to the body.

Joseph Addison

Practising gratitude is great exercise – the benefits are amazing.


THOUGHT

– when tempted to find solace in on-line shopping.

Suzy and Hank, parents of three girls who all like to shop, came up with their own recipe for handling plastic: Preheat oven to 400 degrees F, & bake the cards for 10 minutes!” ~ Quote in Marriage Missions

Each year, Insure.com takes the time to recognize all that mothers do for their families. Work that is often physically, emotionally, and mentally draining – yet deeply rewarding. “Mom’s value” is based on occupational wages from the Bureau of Labor Statistics and does not include a salary from work outside the home. It is calculated using a list of common household tasks that mothers often perform and rounded to the nearest dollar amount.This year it is US$ 93920.


THOUGHTS FOR PARENTS

If a child lives with criticism; He learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility; he learns to fight.
If a child lives with shame; He learns to feel guilty.
BUT
If a child lives with tolerance; He learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement; He learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise; He learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness; He learns justice.
If a child lives with approval; He learns to like himself.
If a child lives with boundaries; They learn personal discipline.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendships; He learns to find love in the world. ~ Dorothy Law Nolte

 

Honour both the mother and the father of your children – both roles deserve honour and respect.


PARENTING

By Ben Pratt – from an article in Dads4Kids
Words of wisdom and humour around the transition to being a stay at home dad, and how to not just survive, but thrive as a family.

I’m a Stay-At-Home-Dad (SAHD, which isn’t the best acronym) with four kids between the ages of 11 and 5 currently.

With everything happening in the world, a lot of people are finding themselves at home with their kids more than what they’re used to. The transition isn’t the easiest at the best of times, .

For me, I went from working in the Sydney CBD five days a week, to 24/7 baby interaction with no cross-over. This was about 11 years ago, and it wasn’t planned for in any way; in fact, my wife was going to be the one staying home. But I got sick, and that very quickly changed our plans.

Children are resilient and gracious when they know they are loved.

As a SAHD, when I’ve had no idea what to do, I’ve always had two options.

Option 1 is to respond with fear. That might mean flight (hide in a screen or book, or in alcohol or food or something else), fight (get aggressive physically or verbally), or freeze (shut down and not engage). A combination of those things is possible as well.

Option 2 is to respond with love. That means engage respectfully, listen and speak gently and clearly (and at times firmly), and be available for one another.

As a father, your family will normally and naturally look towards you to lead the way in this. This doesn’t make you the boss or king of your family, instead it makes you the servant of your family, because you are there to lovingly care for and provide for them. Provision does not have to mean finance, but it ALWAYS means to ensure that they have what they need.

Right now, they need love.

And so do you.

Be gentle with yourself, and be gentle with your family.


LAUGHTER

Dr Keith Nemec in an article called, “Laughter Boosts Immune System and Helps Fight Cancer.” “Another simple but very effective way to boost your immune system and balance your hormonal system is to laugh. Isn’t it interesting how our mind affects our body? When people watch comedies, their blood flow increases by 22% and when they watched graphic war movies, their blood flow decreases by 35%. The studies in Japan even show a more balanced blood sugar in diabetics when they watch comedies and laugh. Research has shown that the average child laughs hundreds of times and the average adult less than 20 times per day. Could this be tied into aging? Norman Cousins wrote in his book “Anatomy of an Illness” how he healed himself of a chronic degenerative disease by watching comedies and laughing hours each day.”

If Laughter cannot solve your problems, it will definitely DISSOLVE your problems; so that you can think clearly what to do about them. ~ Dr Madan Kataria

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