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Lives continue to be challenged by the manner in which various aspects of Covid19 have affected every day life. Dr. Laura Markham in her article, “The Family That Plays Together” wrote: “Given how hard life can be at times, my opinion is that we need to seize all the joy, silliness, fun and humor we can get.”

Dads4Kids” have launched a month of FUN for Dads and their kids throughout the month of November. This is such a great idea for all family members to adopt – not just for November, but for the remainder of this year.

Why not make this not just a Date Challenge, but a Challenge for all the family, to have FUN together – especially over the summer holidays.


PLAY IS NOT AN OPTION

From the infectious fun of side-splitting laughter to the exuberance of an impromptu pillow fight, infusing a spirit of joy and playfulness into your home nurtures your family like little else says Dr. Laura Markham

Playing together is an almost magical way to build connection. Not surprising, since when we laugh, our body releases oxytocin into our systems. So when you’re laughing with someone, you’re bonding. Laughter also transforms bad moods by decreasing the stress hormones circulating in your body.

That’s why playing together is one of the fastest ways to heal minor relationship stress, help people drop grudges, and bring the family into sync. Play and laughter create a happy feeling in your home.

Research shows that humor is an invaluable part of smoothing over the rough spots of life, from royal goofs on our part to simple bad luck. Couples who can use affectionate humor to deflate anger have happier relationships. And children whose parents use silliness to keep the day flowing smoothly are lucky indeed.

The best way to start cultivating more playful fun in your house is to make it part of your routine. You can do this by simply trying new ideas, and if they work, repeating them. That creates fun traditions for your family to enjoy and look forward to. Not all rituals need to be serious or spiritually joyous, some of the best are silly. But don’t wait for special times; any part of daily life can be made into a game. ~ ‘The Green Parent’ By ‘The Green Parent’

Pillow fights (not the aggressive, nasty types!) – This is such an easy and spontaneous way to show affection! Just toss your sweetie a few pillows and start swinging. You think we’re joking?? When is the last time you have had a pillow fight… better yet, when is the last time you’ve had a pillow fight with your SPOUSE?? Yep, just as we thought. It’s about time! Have fun teasing each other with this fun before-bedtime activity. ~ Julie, ‘The Dating Divas’


QUOTES

“The opposite of play is not work – the opposite of play is depression.”  ~ Dr. Stuart Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play, in the middle of his book ‘Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul’.

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” ~ George Bernard Shaw

“In today’s culture-where our self-worth is tied to our net worth, and we base our worthiness on our level of productivity-spending time doing purposeless activities is rare.”  ~ Brene Brown


THOUGHTS FOR PARENTS

When I hear people talk about juggling, or the sacrifices they make for their children, I look at them like they’re crazy, because ‘sacrifice’ infers that there was something better to do than being with your children.
Being with my kids is the best, most fun thing. It’s a privilege. It’s not something I call a sacrifice. ~ Chris Rock

The activities that are the easiest, cheapest, and most fun to do – such as singing, playing games, reading, storytelling, and just talking and listening – are also the best for child development. ~ Jerome Singer


PARENTING

Have fun with your children.
I was not good at it in my early years because I was too serious, but you can work at it.
Life is exciting!
Life is an adventure!
Make it the same for your children.
Having fun with your family is the eleventh commandment.

Hayden Gillies


LAUGHTER

When my child came home from school on the bus, I paused the work conference call I was on to ask her how her day was She responded, ‘Shhh go back to work. I have a list of things I want you to buy for me with the money you’re making.’ She’s five. ~ Kayla Reyes( Huff Post )

“I made the mistake of taking my 4-year-old swimsuit shopping with me. The entire store heard her exclaim things like ‘Mommy, your butt hangs out of that one, too!’ and ‘Why do your boobs come down so low?’ and ‘Are my boobs going to do that someday?’ Never again has a kid come shopping with me!” ~ Angie (What to expect)

Tell a quick story: Here’s an example. I lost my iPhone in my pants once. That’s right, I spent 20 panicked minutes looking around my apartment for my smartphone, only to find out that my pocket had a hole in it. I did not discover this until I used “find my phone” and felt the vibration on my calf where it had found its temporary new home. This got some good guffaws at my ensuing marketing meeting and it only took a minute to tell. ~ ‘Laughter in the workplace’

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