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Many Australians will be observing Father’s Day on the first Sunday in September. It is an opportunity for people to show their appreciation for and to honour fathers and father figures. Father figures may include stepfathers, fathers-in-law, guardians (eg. foster parents), and family friends. Why not make it a mini celebration and fun.

During the pandemic, many couples may have been experiencing new and unexplored sides of their spouse and marriage as they navigated the many layers of increased stressors and the unprecedented situation they lived in. The increased time together is a unique opportunity for marriage to grow and thrive through the challenges couples are encountering together. Applying Dr Gary Chapman’s five love languages to daily living will help any marriage and family to thrive during the many challenges of staying at home during the pandemic.

There will inevitably be times of conflict. Lily Sloane, a licensed marriage and family therapist says: “If we understand where our partners are coming from, it’s easier to muster compassion for them in moments of conflict, rather than feeling defensive or adversarial. Relationship this way — as a partnership between two broken people whose individual fears and insecurities and ways of coping with conflict and stress do trigger… each other, but in a way that can spur any necessary meaningful change.”

Referring to dating couples, Eve Pearl Potok spoke of enjoying this time out, saying: “We have been given the blessing of time to reflect, to rediscover what makes us tick, to reassess what’s important to us, to communicate with God. This blessing would not be available if we were distracted by the demands of our everyday lives.”

So we challenge you to enjoy this time out and find reasons to laugh together often. Why not join in the fun of Marriage Week’s ‘Great Aussie Date Night’. Marriage Week’s Great Aussie Date Night will be held September 19th probably via Zoom. Sign up available soon.


From a list of 61 attributes of her husband from one grateful spouse:

He truly loves our kids and does everything he can for them.
He works so hard.
I trust him completely.
He is my best friend.
He can fix/build anything.
He not only married me (which was a huge risk ), he renewed his vows to me in front of our friends and family.

~ Sheri Mueller, Growthtrac Ministries


QUOTES

“Dads are most ordinary men turned by love into heroes, adventurers, story-tellers, and singers of song.” ~ Pam Brown

“Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.” ~ Anne Geddes

“Men will spend their health getting wealth. They gladly pay all they have earned to get their health back”. ~ Mike Murdoch


THOUGHT

“Older men have a responsibility to walk alongside younger men, giving them the benefit of their experience. Likewise, young men should be open – in fact, eager – to receive advice from the more mature members of their gender. Find other boys and young men to mentor; your responsibility does not stop with your son. Adults think of time in terms of quality. Kids think of time in terms of quantity. Over and over again I hear from teenagers that the one thing they want most from their father is his time – not money, not material goods, not exotic vacations – just time. (Extract from Better Dads, Stronger Sons by Rick Johnson)


THOUGHTS FOR PARENTS

“Not treating our home as our most important organization, to me, is our biggest failure [in the] 21st century,” Eve Rodsky says.

“Your children are an integral part of your team! Enlist and empower them to make special contributions to your ‘home’ organization. Give them a special role and jobs they can confidently fill.” ~ from ‘Fair Play’ by Eve Rodsky


PARENTING

“many young men get their modelling from the television, from gaming or from their associates who may also be struggling to find an authentic way to make the transition from adolescence to manhood. Young men must pledge to keep their word, not to take criticism personally, to make no assumptions and always to do their honourable best. They need to be shown the difference between being aggressive and being assertive and given the space to develop the confidence to communicate in the correct way. They need to be guided so they are able to be empathic, compassionate and at ease with what people traditionally describe as our more feminine side – they soon understand that being comfortable with vulnerability is the ultimate strength. We are teaching our young men that self-respect is most important. They are discovering what it means to be an adult man – a man who takes responsibility, who holds himself accountable, who owns when he makes mistakes. (abandofbrothers.org.uk)


LAUGHTER

Me: *eating chips in bed*
Husband: I thought you said no eating in the bed.
Me: We live in a different world now.
Husband: So, I can-
Me: *interrupts* No.

Keep the spark in your marriage alive during quarantine by awkwardly dancing naked in front of your spouse while they try to conduct conference calls out of your bedroom!!

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