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September is fast approaching and during that month many take the opportunity to honour their Father on the first Sunday – Father’s Day. It is a day when time can be made to express heartfelt love to the father figure in our life. Wives also can play a part by thanking their husband for being there and for the love and support he has given to the family. Then, a week after Fathers are honoured, is Marriage Week, a time for marriages to be honoured. Couples are encouraged to take the opportunity to celebrate and maybe have that special date together. Who needs such an excuse – but take it anyway!

One father, when thinking about Father’s Day, began to wonder what sort of legacy he would be leaving his children, and acknowledged that he had made mistakes – but everyone does, none are perfect. So what sort of legacy will we be leaving our children as Fathers and Mothers.

Steve Wright wrote the following with regards to Father’s Day and the legacy we leave:

“Sure I want them to remember the fun times we had. Having those memories are important, but I’m talking about how will I be remembered after God calls me home.

I’ve come to the conclusion that there are really only a few things that truly matter when we come to the end of this life.

FIRST: What will they remember about my relationship with God? Did I depend on Him for everything? If I sinned did I immediately go to Him to seek forgiveness; and did I go to them and ask for theirs? Was I consistent in putting others ahead of myself?

SECOND: Next to what my sons saw in my relationship to God, the other most important thing I can leave them is how they saw me love their mom in our marriage. Did they see that my love for Cindy (his wife) was patient, kind, not envious or boastful; not arrogant or rude, not irritable or resentful-not insisting on my own way? Did they see me rejoice in wrongdoing or rejoice in the truth? Was my love for Cindy one that bears all things, believes all things & endures all things? (1 Cor. 13:4-7) In other words, did my sons see their dad live out the Bible when it comes to loving their mom?”

Indeed it is what others see in our lives as we live them out and it is never too late to ensure we leave a legacy of love to those around us.


TIPS

The Little Chap Who Follows Me!

A careful man I want to be;
A little fellow follows me.
I do not dare to go astray
For fear he’ll go the self same way.

I cannot once escape his eyes,
Whate’er he sees me do, he tries.
Like me he says he’s going to be;
The little chap who follows me.

He thinks that I’m so very fine,
Believes in every word of mine.
The base in me he must not see;
The little chap who follows me.

I must remember as I go
Through summer’s sun and winter’s snow,
I’m building for the years to be;
The little chap who follows me.

Author unknown


THOUGHT

No man has ever risen to the stature of spiritual manhood until he has found that it is finer to serve somebody else than it is to serve himself.

Woodrow Wilson


THOUGHT FOR PARENTS

One Dad overheard his son pray:

Dear God
Make me the kind of man my daddy is.

Later that night,the father prayed:

Dear God
Make me the kind of man my son wants me to be.

Anon

Dad, be passionate about the one who provided you the opportunity to be a father in the first place. ~ Dr. Ken Canfield

“The Love They See”
“You can’t pretend to love. You can’t even fake a smile. The things you think they don’t notice, they have been watching all the while. Be aware that they are seeing everything you do. If you want your children to know love then it’s really up to you.
For love isn’t just a play time. Love isn’t a TV show. If you love them unconditionally then love will be what they know. It’s not what you want them to remember it’s what they will choose to see. If you loved one another always then loving is what they will be.”

Bob Perks


QUOTES

It is the calling of great men, not so much to preach new truths, as to rescue from oblivion those old truths which is our wisdom to remember and our weakness to forget.

Sydney Smith (1771-1845)


PARENTING

“There is an incredible power in the father-daughter relationship, a power which strongly influences a woman’s future for good or bad. Girls long for affection and affirmation from their fathers. The influence that fathers have on their daughters is profound and lasts for the whole of their lives and it creates a hole in their lives if it is absent.” ~ Dr Robinson

“The research supporting the importance of dads is overwhelmingly clear. Boys with absent fathers, or with problems (with) fathers, are statistically more likely to be violent, get hurt, get into trouble, do poorly in school, and be members of teenage gangs in adolescence. They are less likely to progress to university or have a good career. They marry less successfully, and are less effective fathers themselves.” ~ Steve Biddulph


LAUGHTER

ADULT
Is a person who has stopped growing at both ends and is now growing in the middle. ~ Anon

Little Jimmy’s preschool class went on a field trip to the fire station. The firefighter giving the presentation held up a smoke detector and asked the class: “Does anyone know what this is?” Little Jimmy’s hand shot up and the firefighter called on him. Little Jimmy replied: “That’s how Mommy knows supper is ready!” ~ Anon

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